How To Handle A Grudge

Another transparent post…Praying this helps someone;
I’ve held grudges. I’m not proud of it….it’s wrong….but it has happened.
A grudge develops when someone hurts you and it stings…and you become bitter at the person who hurt you. When we are hurt, it’s normal to perhaps not feel good about someone for a while. When someone hurts you, you don’t necessarily want to spend time with them. You may see them in a store and avoid them. You may change where you normally sit in church to avoid them. For that matter, you may stop going to church. And yes, I’ve done all three.
But none of that does any good. When someone hurts us, we must forgive. Jesus said in the sermon-on-the-mount, that we should pray, “Forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us.”
Notice the last few words; “….as we forgive those who trespass against us.” We are commanded to forgive.
Years ago, the Lord impressed this thought on my heart; No one has done anything to me that is any greater than what we did to put Jesus on the cross.
People hurt us. People let us down. And when it happens it hurts….it may sting for a while. And if it does, we may develop a grudge with someone. If that be the case
Years ago the Lord impressed this thought on my heart; No one has done anything to me that is any greater than what we did to put Jesus on the cross; so, I should forgive.
And so should you. If you are holding a grudge, I encourage you to move on. That doesn’t mean that the hurt has stopped stinging. For that matter, it may sting for years. But when it does, you ask the Lord to help you forget it and and move forward.
Bum Phillips was the Head Coach of the Houston Oilers years ago. I’ve been reading Bum’s auto-biography. Bun talks about a time when he felt he didn’t handle a player right and the kid quit the team. Bum held a grudge against the kid. Bum said, “Don’t ever hold a grudge against a kid. They’re going to mess up. If he messes up, correct him right then and there and leave it on the field.”
That’s good advice for all of us. If someone hurts you, by God’s grace forgive them and move forward.
You may say, “That’s easier said than done.” I hear you and you may have occasional flare-ups but, it does no good to hang on to something.
Years ago, Comedian Buddy Hackett said he didn’t hold grudges. He said “While you are holding a grudge, the person who hurt You is out dancing.”
He’s right. Let’s try to join in the dancing and move forward.

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