Is There Someone That Needs You To “Stand In For Someone?”

Do you know someone that has lost a loved one? Someone that’s lost a Husband or Wife or Dad or Mom, and they need someone to “stand in” for their departed loved one? I saw an example of that last week.
I work for a company that officiates weddings and this year, the Lord has blessed me with many weddings. I’ve seen some very moving things in the weddings I’ve officiated, but this past Saturday, I saw one of the most moving moments. I was officiating the wedding of a young couple from south Florida. They came to a beautiful venue in Blue Ridge, GA, known as Aska Farms for their ceremony.
On the front row of the congregation, there was a chair with a police hat and a picture of the father of the bride, John Morash. Mr. Morash had passed away in October of 2003. He was a member of the West Palm Beach, Florida Police Department. When he passed away, his daughter, Totyana, was a small girl. At the time of her father’s death, some men from the Police Department told her that they would be there for in place of her Dad.
When Totyana graduated High School, members of the Police Department were there to stand in for her Dad.
And, on her wedding day… on November 3, 2018, in north Georgia, (a ten hour drive from West Palm Beach) those men and a lady were there.
As the ceremony began, member of the honor guard escorted the bridesmaids down the altar.
Then, the one female member of the Honor Guard escorted the flower girl and ring-bearer down the aisle.
Finally, a member of the Honor Guard escorted Totyana part of the way down the aisle to her mother who then walked her to the groom and gave her away.
Then, throughout the ceremony, the Honor Guard stood at attention.
When I pronounced Rhyan and Totyana as husband and wife, members of the Honor Guard walked into the aisle and stood at attention as the bride and groom walked through them as they left the ceremony. It was one of the neatest things I’ve experienced doing weddings.
After the ceremony I spoke with members of the Honor Guard. They explained to me that in 2003, when Thomas Morash died, they told Totyana (Thomas daughter) they would always be there for her. That meant attending her weddings which was ten hours away.
As I thought about what these men and women had done, I thought, “The church could learn from them.” The church is the family of God. If you are a member of a church, the people in the church are your brothers and sisters in Christ. And family takes care of another… at least that’s how it’s supposed to work.
Now, go back with me for a moment… go back to 2003… none of us were there but can you imagine how a young lady felt when her Dad died? I can’t imagine. Then, to hear men and women he worked with tell her that they would always be there for her?” That’s a strong commitment and maybe Totyana thought, “Yeah, right…”
But these folks honored their word. They flew to north Georgia to stand in for her Dad. Christians, this provides an excellent example for us. We have a tendency at times to reach out to people after a death or a divorce or some other trial, but then, in time, our concern diminishes. We need to do better at staying with people… not forgetting about them.
Is there someone you need to “stand in” for? Someone who has lost a father or mother or a husband or a wife? Is there someone that needs you to be there… not necessarily say anything… just be there.
When my daughter got married this summer, one of Holli’s nieces, Laci Shuman and her husband Steven and their daughter Ashton, drove up from southeast Georgia. James Knighton, Holli’s oldest brother and Lacy’s Dad passed away in 1990. The night of Sarah’s wedding, Lacy told Holli, “I’m here standing in for my Dad… He would be here if he was living.”
Is there someone that needs you “to stand in” for someone on their behalf?

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